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User Topic: t/j personal growth/evolving love languages?
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hit's personal growth post got me thinking about the five love languages. The last time I took the test was years ago when I was with XSO. I just took it again for fun and surprise, got totally different results than the first time!

I don't remember my exact scores from back in the day but I know I definitely scored highest on acts of service (at the time, I was supporting all eight of us alone and had all the balls in the air) and touch and quality time were waaaaay down on the list... probably because he was such a jerk, I didn't want him anywhere near me.

Today? I scored 10 for touch, 10 for quality time, 5 for acts of service, 5 for words of affirmation and 0 for gifts.

I thought it was interesting. Maybe our languages evolve depending where we're at in our lives? Or maybe when we're in bad situations, we gravitate toward the things that make us feel safer, even if they aren't true to our real nature?

The good part is I know the scores I got today are the real me.

[This message edited by wildbananas at 3:45 PM, September 30th (Monday)]

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 16077 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was really surprised when I took the quiz and scored pretty high for touch. It wasn't my highest, that's quality time, but touch was up there.

What I figured out is that without the quality time tank being filled, I don't feel loved enough to want the touch. So there's a real possibility that if I had taken the quiz during a different stage in my marriage, I would not have scored as high on touch.

But when I look back over my life, I can see how quality time and touch have been consistent needs. It's just that I have been able to turn the touch need off, when I'm not getting the quality time.

There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

Posts: 13045 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartof, Texas
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where do you go to take the test?
(Possibly a dumb question, but that's never stopped me from opening my mouth and asking in the past. )

[This message edited by hit-by-a-train at 8:25 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)]

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--------69 now. Dday was 11/11/05
***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14

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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My results vary slightly each time I take it. Touch is always on the top though.

Failure is success if we learn from it.

3 boys: 11, 9, and 1.

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