Sorry you are hurting topper. I am. Sending hugs.
My IC told me that I would never know "everything".
Exactly.
Just know that what they were saying to each other in person or via text was nothing but lies.
They weren't capable of having a honest conversation because they were too busy living in a fantasy land built on lies they both told each other and believed.
Secret, fun, thrilling...
Not reality, life, bills, kids, family, etc.
He hasn't told you everything but how much more do you really need to know? You know he cheated, you know he lied even after Dday #1 so what more do you need to know?
Remember this...once you do know something you can't unknow it...
Is he at all remorseful? Willing to do IC?
Yes, she may be a bitch but she isn't your focus. She isn't the one you took vows with, your husband is the one who broke your heart and your trust. Is the OW married? If so, tell her BH. He deserves to know.
Look to examine your WH actions and follow your instincts.
We are all here for you. Prayers.
[This message edited by 1Faith at 3:36 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)]