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User Topic: Hpv? I am really in a mess. Help please
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone have experience dealing with this? My Pap came back normal. But I tested positive for the high cancer risk type of HPV. With a normal Pap I can be monitored.

My PCP tells me that it usually resolves (goes away) in 1-2 years. There is conflicting info on the internet. If this is the case there is only one possible person who could have unknowingly infected me. It is almost symptom free in men. PCP tells me a large majority of the population have no idea that they have this and that most people will have this virus in their systems once in their lifetime.

BUT damn!! I am so confused! My ex was a potential breeding ground of nasty diseases after years of sleeping with hookers/heroin
addicts. If the conflicting reports are true and I could have been living with this for years then the ex might be responsible. That means that in spite of me being tested (I thought) for everything I could have infected my current and only partner since the ex in 2008.

This is agony. I would never knowingly put anyone in harms way. If this originates from my current partner I do not blame him but I have a very difficult discussion in front of me. We are really good friends who have been a source of support for each other.
We are FWB with the emphasis on friends.

Sorry for the rambling but I just need to put this somewhere. I will do the morally correct thing. I will talk with my friend and if by any chance he is neg. I will kick the ex so hard in the butt that... well no need to go there.
Truly need advice medically, morally or anything!

[This message edited by risingfromashes at 7:29 PM, September 30th (Monday)]


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rising...I have no advice regarding this but I wanted you to know that I'm sending you healing and calm thoughts.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's scary having to go in for the extra testing and the LEEP, if it comes to that. But yes, most people's immune systems clear it out eventually.

And the things is, since half the population is walking around with some strain of it, you won't really know who you got it from (unless you both have the kind of HPV that gives you genital warts- that's usually a big tell).

Just keep following your doctor's orders and doing your followup testing.


Keep calm and carry on.

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 5:27 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BTDT. Still testing positive a year+ later, and my doc is still entirely unconcerned.

There's a lot of wrong info on the web. Check out the CDC page on HPV. As long as your pap comes back normal, it really is just the "common cold" level of concern. You will probably go in for follow up every 6 months. If it gets worse, every 3.

HPV and the worse results that can ocassionally follow are slow movers, and nothing is going to explode overnight. Even if you do develop precancerous cells, they can be removed in a quick out patient surgery and you will be back to work the next day.

I know (remember well) how scary it is when you first find out, even remember wondering how to tell my most recent partner (not xWS). My doctor said it can live dormant in your body for several years without detection, and she actually didn't see a reason to tell since it's so common. I didn't end up telling the most recent one, because we had broken up very shortly before and I was still in love with him and he was never in love with me...but that's another story. I have told every partner since then, and actually never had a guy care at all.

http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/pap/


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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for your responses. Some of the info on the internet is so damn scary! CDC says there is no way to test men for this?

This was just a big shock! My Dr. is not concerned because my Pap came back normal but I still wonder about what to say.
It sounds like this is just out there everywhere in the general population?


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will give you my "worse case scenario" experience with this. I got HPV when I was 25 and my pap came back abnormal. I don't know where I got it from....but its very possible I got it from XWH since his ex-wife was a cheater and that's why they divorced (he was separated when we met). They said it "should" go away on its own and they would redo the pap... it didn't. Got worse... they waited another 3 months... got worse. I had to get the leep procedure done where they had to cut out part of my cervix. I was terrified. Mainly because I knew I wanted to have children and was afraid I might end up not being able to. I was engaged at the time to XWH.

BUT... years later....I am HPV free.... and have had normal paps ever since the leep procedure... I am 34 years old...and have a beautiful 14 month old daughter.... so no worries. It CAN be very scary..... but it 9 times out of 10 will work out just fine!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 7:59 AM, October 1st (Tuesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My experience is much like Shelly's, except I was 23. I'm 38 now, have a toddler, and have never had a bad Pap come back since my LEEP.

It's scary to hear that initial diagnosis, and I remember feeling a lot of shame when I was 23. Now, most of my friends have dealt with something very similar. It's really manageable. (((risingfromashes)))


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's scary to hear that initial diagnosis, and I remember feeling a lot of shame when I was 23. Now, most of my friends have dealt with something very similar. It's really manageable.

Very true. Its much more common than people realize! My big sister just dealt with this situation about a year and a half ago....and she is 42 and a Lesbian! So there ya go! I held her hand while she had her leep procedure done. It happens to people in all walks of life... but its not uncommon and is very manageable.... ((BIGHUGZ))


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've had 3 abnormal paps due to HPV and one biopsy. Just had another pap and am waiting for the results. I guess I will have the leep procedure if it comes back abnormal.

I'm sure I picked it up from the first guy I dated post-D. But since it is very prevalent in the population, it does no good to get all worked up about it. He wouldn't do anything different if I told him.

NL


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Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HPV isn't always transmitted sexually. My Dr told me they can test to determine if it was. However as it can live for years undetected, there is no real way to know when/where you contracted it.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/2256864/

In this sue happy society, I doubt the Dr would be unconcerned if there was reason to worry.


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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just continue to get your paps and HPV DNA testing when the doctor tells you to. Just because you've been exposed to the high risk HPV doesn't necessarily mean you'll have cervical cellular changes. The best thing is to not smoke, eat right, exercise, and handle your stress. That's the best way to help your body's immune system get rid of the virus.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cervical Cancer due to HPV here. Do not let you dr act like this is no big deal. Stay up on the PAPs.

this is from http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm


HPV is passed on through genital contact, most often during vaginal and anal sex. HPV may also be passed on during oral sex and genital-to-genital contact. HPV can be passed on between straight and same-sex partners—even when the infected person has no signs or symptoms


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a run-in with this in my 20s (back when dinosaurs roamed the earth...).

Had painless cryosurgery and never had any issues with it after that.

They put me on an HPV study list for a couple of years after DDay just to be on the safe side.

(((rising)))

It's a scary world out there..

[This message edited by FaithFool at 11:39 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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stabbed81
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am in the same boat. Got the news on last Friday. I got it from my WH. He is the only one I have been sexual with. He is a sex addict x 5 years. Multiple hookers and massage parlors.

I checked with my OB/GYN. She said the test is for the high risk sub-type virus. 80% of time it goes away. She recommended Vitamin with folic acid (e.g. Prenatal) and Beta carotene 25,000 IU to boost immune system.
Although, I will try everything in my capability to improve my physical condition, I feel awefully victimized by this thing. I am being punished without any fault of mine.


Me-BW 32
Him-33 Sex addict x 5 years
Married 7 years together 13 years
3 year old DD

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