WS has been trying to text me more since dday and I really do appreciate it. We rarely texted before then but he was texting/sexting OW at a rate of up to 5000 texts per month.
I really like the communication part of texting, the checking in, the affirmations etc. but lately he keeps adding stuff like I want to help clean house but I'll do it naked for you and I'm thinking of doing you right now at my desk etc. this turn of the conversation makes me very uncomfortable because he spent so much time sexting with her. Really it kind of grosses me out. If he was sweet and caring and whispered similar things in my ear it wouldn't be quite as bad but in a text it just seems so skeezy. Especially because I know it got him off doing it with her. I've seen only one conversation and picture exchange but it was enough to make me physically ill. Even if I hadn't seen it I still think I would be unsettled because well ick. I see Penis pictures in my head and it is just yuck.
I've told WS how I feel and he seems so disappointed that I don't appreciate his flirting. I admit I don't because "I want to do you"is not flirting to me. It was to her though. Flirting to me is sweet and flattering and being made to feel special. But he just doesn't get it. It is like Howard Wallowitz at a bar with him all push and no class.
I don't really have a question. Just venting a little. I guess if anyone has suggestions on how to teach a guy to flirt, let me know.
[This message edited by roses303 at 8:22 PM, September 30th (Monday)]