We had a conversation last night and I told her I've never heard her say the words, "I would do anything." To which she replied, "I want to make it work." Seriously, it was so frustrating. She's afraid if she says the words I want to hear her say they won't mean as much. She's never said it any other time either! I tried to explain what the difference between "I'll do anything" and "I want it to work". It's the difference between hoping for better and committing to better. She eventually said it but by the time she got there sounded like she was more mad than anything. It shouldn't surprise me because in our house even yes/no questions elicit yes/no and "other" responses.
I can tell her, and have, exactly what I need in order to make R successful. I really, really, really, don't want to have to tell her exactly what she has to do to get there. Should I? I'm starting IC tomorrow again to figure that out.