What does everyone think?
We were LD so he is nowhere around me, but the persona he is showing the world in RL and his online self are so opposite...
I'd like to hear what others think as well.
If his actions involved something illegal, than that's another story. I'd tell them.
If it's just him being a shitty BF, with zero boundries, unfortunately, that's his right. And I'd walk away.
I was in a similar situation with a police sgt. Not only was he doing illegal things with his job, he was a serious psycho in his personal life, to include hurting his children. I was able to pass on info to the law, regarding his child abuse, but the rest didn't matter. No matter what I said, I was looked at as the crazy ex. He was a cop, and very good at knowing how to manipulate the story. It wasn't until his son's school sent his son by ambulance to the hospital, for being beat by the man, that they came back to ask me questions and take me seriously. Unfortunately, again, he got off because he knew how to word things. Today, he's married to a woman who had children of her own. He met her, and they got married all in less than a year. I was torn as to letting her know what whe was getting into. But, I walked away. I knew she wouldn't listen, and she was going to have to live it for herself.
It's a tough choice. I think you need to think about yourself with this one, and ask yourself if it will help. If not, just walk away.
Them : in the past, where they can stay.
I think it depends on how close you are with his family. If they talk to you, and ask why you are no longer with him, I'd tell them the truth. But if your only contact with them was always with him, then if you reach out to them now, chances are they will just see you as some crazy ex
working towards D...I can't pretend anymore
**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**
I and my family have dealt with this. A good friend turned out to be a pedofile, and groomed out son for a year. He did some illegal things, but it was his word against a minor, and the DA didn't want to prosecute because there wasn't enough evidence to convict. By the time the pervert does something worth conviction, he will have hurt more boys and their families. Our son is now very sexually promiscuous with girls to prove to the world, and to himself that he isn't homosexual. Breaks our heart.
It is a good thing people are innocent until proven guilty, as it keeps truly innocent people from going to jail for things they didn't do. The truly guilty ones, however get to hurt others until they are caught doing something worth conviction.
I have thought about what will they think of me, and I have come to realise... I don't actually care! Everyone I love knows I have done nothing wrong and am the innocent party. If they think I am crazy, so be it. All they need to do is look at his phone for the evidence.
Any contact would not go ahead involving me, and I do not want anything out of it other than knowing I did everything I could to try and stop a monster. I am unsure if some things I saw on the phone were illegal, but they certainly were not right.
Will mull it over for a few more days/weeks and see how I feel then.
Thanks again for responding everyone