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User Topic: Good day / MC
♀ 39850
Member # 39850
Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wBF and I had a really serious talk last night about everything. It's the most honest I've been about my doubts and feelings.

Today I woke up to alot of really sweet messages. He hasn't talked to me like this since before Dday. And then he sent me an email of a counselor he found to ask if the guy looked ok to me. I replied yes, and he's already set up the appointment for Saturday!

I feel like he's taking control, and it's like a huge burden has been lifted off my chest. Actually feeling hopeful.

We are going to try both MC (communication issues) and IC (A issues) with the same person. It's a male counselor, which I have mixed feelings about. I feel a little uncomfortable talking to a guy about sex, but wBF feels more comfortable with it. I have my own IC, so I want to focus more on what makes him comfortable. The guy is a certified marriage counselor.

Are there any questions we should ask on the first appointment to make sure he's right for us?

Posts: 1758 | Registered: Jul 2013
♀ 28362
Member # 28362
Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to hear things are going so well for you.

I think I would ask if they were in a relationship and a partner strayed what would they do. We had a MC who would D or leave right away. I don't think this person was the right MC. Ask any other questions that you feel are important. Sometimes you can tell the first visit and sometimes it takes a couple of times to decide.

Good luck


Posts: 828 | Registered: Apr 2010
♂ 40199
Member # 40199
Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is a great post with question to ask a potential MC.

It is buried and I didn't see it until someone pointed it out.

Hope this helps:

Me–BS age 61
Her -- WS age 59
Married for 34 years
One child, 30yrs

Her 'A' 1994(?) through 1998
D-Day 7/4/2013 Yes, I didn't find out for almost 15 years... but the pain is just as bad as if she were with him last week.

Posts: 159 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Near Houston Texas
Topic Posts: 3

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