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User Topic: Who's done a polygraph?
♀ 39670
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And how did it turn out for you?

Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How do you even go about getting one done aren't they expensive

Posts: 171 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had WH take one. He passed (it said no lies), he was lying (his admission later on, not just me thinking he was).

Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016

Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an

Posts: 772 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Out of the ashes
♀ 37154
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H took one and passed. I do believe him. We had a guy who worked for the FBI and local law enforcement, set up by my PI who was an ex-cop. The guy was professional but cold and did all sorts of things in the beginning to set up the polygraph. I'm sure they can vary.

It was $450.

And it helped us move forward. I have had independent verification that my H was telling the truth as well.

Worked for us.

Dday -9/23/2012

Posts: 2309 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
♀ 39652
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XWH took one. After so much TT, and me contacting the OW only to be told by her that there was an additional OW, I wouldn't allow him back in the house without one scheduled.

We found one in the phone book. He was an ex cop, used to do them for his department. The cost was steep. I think somewhere around $350. But when he saw we were parents of three and I was pregnant, he cut us a break.

He helped us form I think it was seven questions that could be answered with a yes or no. I gave my XWH one last chance to say anything else, and the cop also stressed that the test would detect his lies. He fessed up to one last minor thing, took the test, and passed it.

I left feeling such relief. I knew there was a chance he was still lying and the test was false...but I decided it was the closest I could get to the truth. I needed that peace, and it's what finally helped me move forward.

The marriage didn't last. We D. But I will never regret the money spent.

Me : no longer a BW or BGF. Starting over!

Them : in the past, where they can stay.

Posts: 955 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My brother took one and it said he was lying. It was later proven that he was telling the truth.

The very best stats I have heard are 93% accuracy. I think 7% is too much to risk, especially with the high cost. Also, I fully believe that the percent of accuracy is only as high as it is because people "believe" the test will know if they are lying, so they are therefore more likely to tell the truth, or have what is called parking lot confessions before going for the actual tests. Many say that helps them, but it is not something I would do or recommend.

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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I took one and it did a lot for my BH in his healing and helped him move forward. Not a cure all, but a piece of the puzzle for sure.

It showed no lies and I didn't lie. For us it was helpful.

H googled polygraph examiners in the area, interviewed a few on the phone, looked at their credentials, emailed back and forth, and made his choice. I think it was somewhere around $400.

"If you want to know who your tribe is, speak your truth, then see who sticks around. Those are the people who get a spot in your blanket fort." -Nanea Hoffman

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