If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with that
Me- FBS 42
Him- EX!! 38
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
Word of the day: Balance.
Step back. Pause. Breathe. Then say out loud "I will strive for balance and perspective today".
Feel free to do the same tomorrow, and the next day, and the...
Wishing you comfort.
Anyhow, I am where you are....just so exhausted from it all and withdrawing.
And I have questions I want answers to as well, but I'm just too emotionally whooped to ask them. He was angry at me the other day because I wait to bring things up until days after a big discussion but it's because the biggest questions are the ones I'm afraid to ask -- who suggested the sex at first and what was said afterwards and WHY. Just WHY :(
In some respects he's right, but it also seems like a contradiction of his words over the weekend where he INSISTED that I share what I'm feeling.
I feel like I'm caught between the proverbial rock and hard place, so I've decided just to do nothing today. As much as I want to get past all the anxiety and worries, I have to give this (and us) some time. I'm worried about losing momentum, but trying to rush the process isn't helping either of us.
Join me in taking a day or two to just "be" and see how that feels?
So yes, my cyber twin, lets take a break. I hereby give us both permission!
This is hard stuff. What's the right balance of communicating without always "talking"? When does it become too much for one or both of us?
After a whole lot of introspection, I've realized just this week that some of my angst gets revved up when H doesn't respond to situations like I would. Gotta get a handle on that, we're very different people and that's a silly thing to expect...
There's wine and a baseball game on my to-do list tonight, I hope you can kick back and enjoy some peace as well.