I have read many stories on SI and other websites that just stun me. Yes, I have my own situation, but some of you betrayed folks are sure being unnecessarily abused. Why isn't this abuse properly handled by the law and or the courts? Why is the victim exposed to so much suffering, psychological damage, etc. while the cheaters are happily fucking away!?
(Sorry for the poor language, but just major venting).
Edit: Sorry, perhaps I should have put this in the General forum.
[This message edited by jackfish at 10:22 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]
My D process I filed against her is right at a year, and would totally have been done 6 mo ago, but what can you expect from a proven liar??? Not only has she lied with malice and disregard for her family and the other family the whole time, she even now is saying eff you to the court.
She signed the separation documents, but now WILL NOTfulfill the terms. At times it is simply using the wrong forms acting "dumb" when signing over retirement accounts so they won't go through, but now that her 401k is under QDRO to have some of it signed over, she is absolutely not doing it, even in the face of a petition to the court/contempt of court to make it happen.
Stay strong JF, and thanks again for your post.
The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...
selfish to the point of insanity, and so FUCKING WEAK!!! True cowards in every regard, complete hypocrites, no honor,
admitting to this as a former wayward.
Sadly, those who need to see this do not hang out in SI. Most in the WW forum are very humble and realize the devastation they've caused.
I'm so sorry for all this pain.
[This message edited by rachelc at 11:54 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”
Thank you for your comment as a former WW. Appreciated you point of view.
Ya, I knew when I wrote this it wouldn't get read by waywards. It was just a general rant. Like yelling out loud when I'm in my truck, or the like.
I was thinking, I should start a pseudo "Affair" just to try to understand the thoughts and insanity that takes place in the mind. But that would be cruel to the other human being involved in such an experiment. I could have NEVER cheated on my wife, or any future partner, so it's hard to really truly understand the micro details of how one carries on with the deceit, lies, charades, etc. and being ok with hurting so many when in this so called Fog.
They are fucking monsters bereft of a soul, selfish to the point of insanity, and so FUCKING WEAK!!! True cowards in every regard, complete hypocrites, no honor, and they enjoy watching others suffer
Yup. If you really put all areas of their lives under a microscope you'll see it carries over into everything they do too. They are almost always piss-poor decision makers. Even if they appear successful, it is often because they have convinced/manipulated others into helping them so they look good. But really if you took all the crutches away they couldn't find their way out of a wet paper bag without help and they know it. Selfish weak cowards. Children in grown-up bodies.
[This message edited by ineedtoleave at 3:08 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]
so FUCKING WEAK
^^^this is how I now see my H. Looking back over the years I can see he always was. Everyone just thought he was calm, easy-going and sweet.
Now I just see he never really had any balls!!
PS: NO ONE has ever had the "S2S is so sweet" first impression!!