**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**
I am so sorry that you have to go through this shit storm!
Just know that you have to go through it...not around it.
And I promise as you process your new reality...'Your husband had a GIRLFRIEND!'... will get better. *Better* maybe be a bit optimistic...you won't flinch as much.
Time will make the difference.
If all goes well with your R the two of you,as a loving couple, will be able to put this nasty business behind you.
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Just hold on to the fact that he is NOT going this year.....
(unless, of course, he begins acting as if he's doing you some big favor by declining the invitation...)
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.