I am so sorry that you have to go through this shit storm!
Just know that you have to go through it...not around it.
And I promise as you process your new reality...'Your husband had a GIRLFRIEND!'... will get better. *Better* maybe be a bit optimistic...you won't flinch as much.
Time will make the difference.
If all goes well with your R the two of you,as a loving couple, will be able to put this nasty business behind you.
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.