No, you ARE brave. If he had walked out anyway, you wouldn't have had any "what if" moments or regrets and not having given it your all.
It is soooo much easier, not liberating, to walk out and quit.
A M is supposed to be for life.
I poured my heart out to my WH when I first found out too!
We had R for about 6 weeks.
When he redeployed, she started contacting him every single day. She played the I'm so helpless and you big strong KISA I need you even if we can only be friends card.
He finally caved and started his KISA crap. After a few weeks, it was false R.
I recognize, and he admitted, that he is the one that is pathetic. He has a sick need for constant attention.
I walked. Filed for legal separation as soon as he sent the first email back to her. Hacked into his emails
Anyway, going through LS. I have to wait now another 30 days before I can file for D because of some crazy cooling off period.
Anywho, now he doesn't come back until Christmas, so I will have him served.
I have no regrets. Yes, I swallowed my pride, but I don't regret it. If it had worked out, why should I have thrown away my M for a piece of sh.t Shrek looking tramp. I worked too hard for everything we had.
It is an individual choice. My STBXH had a lot of good in him, and he was PA abusive at times, but he was also sweet, funny, loving. He was worth the effort, but he went into the fog from the shame and his own weakness.
Good luck and don't beat yourself up. You did what you were supposed to do for your M.