I've NEVER had a good opinion of cheaters. I've always shunned them to some extent because I thought they were dirty.
Now that this crap has happened to me in my M, I really really despise actively cheating married folks.
With that said, a man that works in the same building as me came into our office. I was alone. I've thought I caught him checking me out before, but wasn't positive. He was always quick to play it off that he wasn't really looking directly at me.
SO, he comes in, looks around and sees that I am alone, tells me he has been checking me out lately, and starts telling me how I'm a "sharp dresser" and that I really know how to carry myself.
Uhggggg, not only a trigger, but it absolutely disgusted me.
I immediately got defensive and told him he is married and should be giving compliments of this nature to his wife.
He said, "You are married too, right!"
Has anybody after the affair been approached like this from another married person? How did YOU handle it?
I'm still bothered and disgusted and now triggering.
Yes, I am still married for now. I am not my STBXH, and have NO intention of dating or ANYTHING until the D is actually final. I just couldn't break those vows that I made before God, family, and friends. Still don't know how my WH did it.
