I ask because it seems to me the answer to your Q is pretty obvious.
Asking for honesty isn't asking for too much. It's the minimum, IMO.
I've been to IC as this is the 2nd man to cheat.
Could he possibly b telling the truth??
You know the answer to this question already. You just don't want to accept it.
If you want them to quit stabbing you in the back, then you need to quit handing them the knife.