My parents haven't been too supportive of my decision to stay with WH. They offered to give me $100k towards a new house and to help with the payments if I moved out. They offered to move near me to help with the kids. And I DO appreciate those offers, I really DO.
Because of the support my parents were willing to give me I feel like I was able to make a choice independent of finances. But I didn't leave WH.
WH came out of the fog with a vengeance and has been a great H for a change. The kids are doing better than ever (during his 2 yr affair my DD started having a lot of anxiety and needed counseling/she's very empathetic and a bit prescient).
So now we're a bit more than a year out of trying to put it all back together. My parents, who used to be big fans of WH, have let us both know how they now feel about WH. They worry that I'm miserable all the time and that the kids really would be better off in a happy but single parent house.
I don't let their opinions sway me. I figure that this is my life and my kids' lives and they don't play a huge role in it all, so I've talked to them on the phone weekly, sent snapshots of our vacations, but have not felt the need to subject WH to a week of Christmas at their house or some awkward family Thanksgiving.
I guess they finally figured out that this is the new reality and they are coming down for Veteran's Day week-end. They are staying in a hotel and we are staying at my brother's house (two blocks away), and EVERYBODY sans kids knows everything.
My anxiety is starting to flare. WH is down for whatever. Any tips?? Anyone have similar experiences? Does anyone have advice from years out?