They were a trigger because: they are the same type of pants (same style, cut and colour) that OW wore to my daughters bday party a few years ago. Anyway I didn't realize this until I started wearing them and they looked...familiar. Then I started flashing back to the day of the party and remembered that SHE wore pants just like that (I even have her in a pic wearing them). Everytime I wore them, I thought of her, then the A and triggered...HARD. Goodbye pants, you looked good but aren't worth my mental health. (Now I must be crazy...I'm saying goodbye to pants! )
working towards D...I can't pretend anymore
**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson "She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
OW and I were friends in the past and wore the same fragrance...after everything went to shit, I threw out a brand new, $90 bottle of that fragrance and have never worn it since.
(((Hugs))), Rella
When his family jokingly tells you of how "spoiled" HE was as a child, RUN- It doesn't change when they get older!
We're still early in the process (1 month) so I don't know what the future holds for us, but I am a very frugal person and normally it would be almost impossible for me to throw out good clothes - and $400 went into the trash 2 weeks after they were purchased. :(
He had also brought back gifts for our 1 year old that he bought on the trip. Those he cried about when I threw them away. He said that he bought them to make himself feel less like a terrible father for betraying the family. I felt that it was a disgusting thing to give a baby a toy bought during the period he betrayed the family.
[This message edited by ShatteredLove00 at 1:46 PM, October 3rd (Thursday)]
Loony is still wearing them, and pushing that shit down.
You're not crazy.
Here's crazy -- soon after DDay I went out and bought shoes like the MCOW wore(totally not my style). My H had remarked to her, kind of a joke but kind of not, how much he liked her wild sexy shoes.
Ugh. I finally yanked the wild, sexy heels off those things and trashed them.
eta, I shoulda stabbed him with the heels, they were POINTY. Oh well, opportunity lost!
[This message edited by StrongerOne at 11:26 AM, October 3rd (Thursday)]
Saying that I have changed a lot of my clothes and bought myself some nice new ones since S.
Though if I did have any clothes that looked like its I wouldn't think twice about binning then!
Oh, wait.
I never owned any!
AJ's MOM
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer ____________________________________________ Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09 One AMAZING DS - 34
Unfortunately, I know all too well how triggers that seem loony to everyone else make complete and total sense when you are living it.
Hang in there. Don't he too harsh on yourself. You have a right to feel like you look awesome in any pants/shirt you wear. If you think of the OW- those pants need to go!
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."
JKL Vikings
The Alpha Female (my wife) saw a teddy bear that OW had given L(my youngest son). She said she wanted it gone. It went out in the next morning's trash.
^^^This is awesome. Glad you threw it out! I would want it gone too.
I needed to be as different as possible.
dday October 21,2012 dday December 20, 2013 wh deleted I attempted R, he was a lie
The environmentalist in me, wouldn't even let me burn the F ing sheets. I donated them. Anyone getting used sheets knows what occurred on thwm doesn't matter with whom! OM's BW did break all the dishes my WW gave to them. I was OK with this as it was very therapeutic. I did find a sign OM's daughter had made for WW, wishing her good luck in an event. I burned it for here and emailed her a picture of the ashes. Also left them on the grill and made WW clean it up.
