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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had asshat exH served with divorce papers. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done, not because I loved him. No- that faded long before. But it was hard because I was afraid. I was afraid of him. I was afraid of trying to make it raising my DS without having a partner. I was afraid of breaking up the family. I was afraid of the unknown.

Despite all of that, I realized that what I feared more than all that is that I'd lose myself completely to his crazy. I was afraid I'd damage my DS further with all the constant fighting in my attempts to keep the family unit intact. I was afraid that DS would grow up thinking it was okay to treat people the way his dad treated me.

So, I stood up. I put one foot in front of the other. Packed up what was necessary. Withdrew my paycheck from the joint bank account. Took off work and had some fun with DS. We went shopping, went to the park to play, etc.

It was difficult. But I made it. Things aren't perfect, but it's a new routine, a new normal for us. At some point, the sun finally began to peek through the storm clouds, and now I'm finally standing in the sunshine.

SO said something to me the other day. He said, "rainbows are just light scattered in the clouds." It really resonated with me. I feel as though I am that light that's been scattered through the clouds, the storms of time and circumstance. But somehow things came back together and are beautiful now.

Idk if that makes any sense. I applaud you if you read all that drivel. But I felt like I needed to purge today.


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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have the dumb again this morning.

It's 2 years ago. 2011.

[This message edited by abbycadabby at 10:20 AM, October 3rd (Thursday)]


Posts: 1830 | Registered: Feb 2010
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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so glad you are standing in the sunshine now! I know how good it feels!!!

It's been 5 years since my own nightmare began, and I am now able to look back and appreciate that I am in the best of places now.

I am able to see that for the last 20+ years of my marriage, I was spiraling into a horrible depression and there was no end in sight. My failure to take action myself- sooner- was fear of the unknown, and that I mistakenly believed that marriage was for life. In the end ExWH cured my depression by seeking out his high school sweetheart... A match made in heaven as far as I am concerned... and freeing me to find true happiness- which I did!

I am so very happy now, like you... standing in the warm rays of bright sunshine, finally LIVING, and having a ball!!!

The best,

Happily Divorced- final in Oct. 2009, Engaged to my True Love in Dec. 2012

When his family jokingly tells you of how "spoiled" HE was as a child, RUN- It doesn't change when they get older!

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