Sorry, I have to get this off my chest and I can't say it to him.
So I recently got an email from stbx. We are completely NC except for info on the kids. He writes that he thinks he may possibly lose a client in which case the company wonít be able to afford him. So, in case that happens, I should only spend money on absolute necessities. He did at least add, ďAs you have been.Ē
Fine, except I know that in the business he is in clients come and go all the time. They threaten to leave often. Itís the nature of the beast. He also knows that Iím frugal and have never taken advantage of him financially. Cry me a river.
Iím taking care of four kids by myself. In the six months since he ran off, he has come to visit them twice. The first time he flew in and took them out on Saturday and Sunday, returned them in the evenings. The second time he flew in for a day and spent a Saturday with them. Both of these times he stayed in a $500/night suite. To top it off, the kids donít understand that he itís a hotel room, not an apartment and feel bad for him. They explained to me that Dads apartment is really small. He only has a bedroom and a living room with a sinkÖ. His actual apartment is gorgeous and on the water and costs more to rent than my mortgage.
It just pisses me off. His tone is commandeering and rude. I think he is stressed about work and wants to talk to me about it but he knows he burned that bridge so this is his way of ďtellingĒ me how hard heís got it.
If I were still communicating with him, Iíd really like to tell him that this is his doing.
- Maybe he would have more money if he werenít spending it on his adultery partner.
- Maybe he would have more money if he didnít now have to support two separate households.
- Maybe he would have more money if he didnít treat all his belongings and wife and children as if they were disposable.
-Maybe he would have more money if he didnít need to have an awesome car.
But hey, since he does/did there are consequences. One of them is that I donít care if he feels financially secure. Iím going to make sure the kids are dressed and fed and have a place to live.
We are not a team anymore a-hole.