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Call today on my cell asking for mr.x wgb using his first name which he does not go by. That was a clue for legal or money issue for many years. I said this is WGB can I help you. Are you his wife? um, no!
we've been divorced for a few years. She then says she needs permission from him to speak with me then. I said where did you say you were calling from again? tells me name of place, hang up I run to google. It sounds like collection agency but based on west coast. ??
Puzzling.
No wonder he has become angry man over money in emails again. He needs someone to kick and blame: me. Ass!

I'm sorry, WGB. We have that, to. For some reason X didn't change addresses or phone numbers to many of his accounts and they still come to the house. I think sometimes that it would be too much reality to change the information over all at once and is easier not to deal with it.

There is a story a friend of mine tells who is a BS where the X there -A WH-was trying to secretly change her off of his life insurance policy, but he neglected to change the contact info. So the calls back to him went to their house, where she lives, and it ended up backfiring on him and becoming a big fight.

Here things come like doctor's apts. or collection calls also and I found myself doing the same thing you did!

Now I don't do much with them and figure it's his job to work on his own finances. And as you say with the blame game, I don't want my name involved!

You are being way too kind and giving too much information. I simply say that he does not live here. Then they hang up and that agency does not call back. However, debts are turned over to collection agencies and sometimes turned over again. And they are persistent because they only get paid when they collect the debt so I continued to get calls until I shut off my home phone about a year ago. I still get letters, especially from the IRS. I just toss those.

Not my problem.

If you suspect a caller is a debt collector, ask them "Are you a debt collector?" by law they have to identify themselves if asked. Collectors will call neighbors, friends, family to track down the debtor. Once you tell them you are divorced and request they not contact you again they should stop. If they don't, contact your State's attorney generals office and log a complaint.

[This message edited by momentintime at 3:47 PM, October 4th (Friday)]