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duststorm posted 10/4/2013 15:33 PM

I just found my WH's second phone. It's an iPhone. He left it under the couch plugged in. I can't get into it. What should I do?

1devastedmom posted 10/4/2013 15:44 PM

Take it and see if someone here can help you unlock it. Don't say anything to him and watch him squirm. I guarantee he won't say anything to you about it and if he does tell him you don't know what he's talking about.

calgon54 posted 10/4/2013 15:45 PM

I wpuld take it and put it somewhere where he will never find it. When he is looking for it - let him explain that!
So sorry this is happening to you!

duststorm posted 10/4/2013 16:01 PM

I'm taking it to one of my girlfriend's house. Now I know why he's been on edge all day. I just called him and asked him when he was coming home and he was already edgy. So I just be calm and nice?
Please, if someone can tell me how to get in to, let me know. It's a code. It doesn't have his normal code on it. He had it charging and hidden under the couch.

brokensmile322 posted 10/4/2013 16:14 PM

You act cool calm and collected. You take the phone and the charger away...far away.

Sent you a PM

duststorm posted 10/4/2013 16:38 PM

Did I over react by taking it? Now I'm second guessing myself. I had a feeling he had another phone but he kept denying it. He stays upstairs all night and when I come upstairs he gets mad. Hes also had crazy mood swings out of no where. The ow is moving soon so I hoped I would get my husband back w her out of the picture. I took it because if I didn't, I may never get a chance to see it again. I'm worried about how he will react. He probably will get so mad he will leave and I have 2 small children (one less than a month old).

pewpewpew posted 10/4/2013 17:13 PM

You keep that phone.
If he asks, you have NO idea what he's talking about.

Keep trying to unlock it.
Use simple codes y

SisterMilkshake posted 10/4/2013 17:13 PM

I doubt he will ask where the phone is. If he does, you ask him, what phone? You told me you had only one phone. What phone could you be looking for?

He'll get mad? Fuck him, you need to be mad. If he leaves, fuck him. He was going to leave for any little reason you gave him if you messed with his little fantasy.

Stay strong. (((duststorm)))


SisterMilkshake posted 10/4/2013 17:14 PM

Have you looked at your Private Messages duststorm?

You didn't overreact. You did the right thing.

topperoff22 posted 10/4/2013 17:18 PM

You were in the right. He is in the wrong. IF you are afraid he will harm you please seek shelter with family, but you need to hold on to that phone. I once read that men will usually use a birthday, a graduation year, a wedding anniversary or a family member's birthday or anniversary as their code.

Please keep us updated!

Keep the contents of that phone when you go to the attorney because there is NO way he should still be talking to her!

Did I over react by taking it? Now I'm second guessing myself. I had a feeling he had another phone but he kept denying it. He stays upstairs all night and when I come upstairs he gets mad. Hes also had crazy mood swings out of no where. The ow is moving soon so I hoped I would get my husband back w her out of the picture. I took it because if I didn't, I may never get a chance to see it again. I'm worried about how he will react. He probably will get so mad he will leave and I have 2 small children (one less than a month old).

Snapdragon posted 10/4/2013 17:22 PM

Can you have anyone with you when he gets home?

You did the right thing.

Those things aren't cheap. Where did he get the money for it? What did he use to pay for it? He may have a secret credit card, too.

Sending thoughts of strength to you!!

crestfallen posted 10/4/2013 17:28 PM

Hi....you did the right thing. You know nothing. Think Sgt. Shultz from Hogans Heros ( if you're old enough.).

Try the OWs birthday or last four digits of her phone number. If you can afford to, use a website to get that information.

Hugs to you and stay strong. You can do this!!!

[This message edited by crestfallen at 5:29 PM, October 4th (Friday)]

duststorm posted 10/4/2013 17:39 PM

It's his old phone that he used before the company gave him his work phone. He used to imessage her on that but I dug through it. Now he leaves that phone down stairs for me to look at at any time. He's home now and I cooked dinner. He hasn't said anything yet and he's been upstairs. No family here, but plenty of friends. Im going to play dumb. I suspected he had another phone.
My blood ran cold when I found it. This is horrible.

meplusfour posted 10/4/2013 17:44 PM

Be strong.

catlover50 posted 10/4/2013 17:44 PM

Yes it is horrible. (((Dust storm)))

This means he has been lying all along.


I'm so sorry.

doggiemom12 posted 10/4/2013 18:19 PM

Take it to the genius bar at an Apple store and tell them you forgot the code. They may be able to reset it. If they won't call Geek Squad or someone else and have them get into it for you. It can be done.

Catwoman posted 10/4/2013 18:31 PM

You give that phone to a friend and have her take it to Apple and get the code (she can tell them she forgot). This way you can truthfully say "what phone? You have. Phone. It is right there. What phone are o looking for? He won't want to go there. Trust me.

What you find will determine next steps. Stay cool and unruffled and know that your demeanor is driving him batshit. I always found that to be inspirational.

Cat

Holly-Isis posted 10/4/2013 18:52 PM

You're right to take it. Just gaslight the hell out of him. Pretend you don't know anything. That he must be forgetful or mixing up his lies, confusing his A with his M.

Lean on the people here and get support where you can IRL.

Your WH needs to see you be strong, that you don't need a man child with a GF. You need a real man, who can do right by his wife.

anewday78 posted 10/4/2013 19:09 PM

Wait for somebody to call it. Once you get an incoming call, answer it and then hang up. Voila! The phone is unlocked!

neverdidithink posted 10/4/2013 19:16 PM

The apple store will not reset the password for you, if they agree to touch it without proof of ownership or the associated iTunes password, they will likely wipe it clean for you to re-synch with your iTunes.

]If the phone has the find my phone app on it, he can activate it remotely and see exactly where the phone is. Power that sucker down, pronto. The app can't give its location if it's turned off.

If it's an iphone5 and he downloaded the new ios7 software, the phone may be set to wipe clean after a certain number of failed password attempts so think hard about what likely passwords would be.

You may be able to make him crazy with the missing phone, but you may never get to see what's on it.

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