Topic: Just a few words of..
Member # 34353
| Posted: 10:26 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013|
encouragement to the new ones joining us. I know right now as you have just had your life blown apart it seems like it is never going to get better, you are always going to feel devastated, and you are going to be eating shit sandwiches for breakfast, lunch and dinner, I do want to tell you it does get better. I think whether you end up Ring or Divorcing, time does help some. You will learn to deal with all of this I promise. It wont always feel like a Mac Truck is sitting on your chest. I am a little past 2 yrs out. Things are not perfect, but we are working on it, I can sleep and life has its routine back mostly. We do have a new normal. I promise it will get better
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1682 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Member # 14459
| Posted: 8:17 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013|
Good advice jjsr. It also helps to redefine the marriage. The BS has been betrayed in the worst way and their self-esteem is probably in the dumps. I like the comment on doggiediva's posts:
Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite
Be a little selfish and focus on yourself and your own needs.
Posts: 1943 | Registered: May 2007 | From: NC
Member # 31349
| Posted: 11:14 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013|
I completely agree. In the beginning it's so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but it absolutely exists.
"The evil that is in the world almost always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence if they lack understanding." -Dr. B. Rieux
Posts: 19112 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 36622
| Posted: 4:42 AM, October 6th (Sunday), 2013|
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2707 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 40903
| Posted: 12:59 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013|
Your post was encouraging. Thank you! I am one year out from D-day but some days it feels like I just found out and I am still to this day not sure about the R.
Some days it does feel like I will feel this pain forevery!
Me: BW, 37
Him: SO, 37
Committed relationship 13 years
Dday: July, 2012
Posts: 51 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Texas
Member # 34716
| Posted: 2:16 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013|
Some days it does feel like I will feel this pain forever
You won't. And it gets less and less. Take it one day at a time. After a while you'll look around and find that you can breathe again. Believe it or not, one day, you'll wake up to a beautiful, joyful day.
My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.
Posts: 1316 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett
Member # 40791
| Posted: 2:32 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013|
Thank you for posting kind words and encouragement jjsr (and everyone else after). You made me smile and reading this thread made my day better. :)
Me: BGF - 29
Him: WBF - 32
I broke up with him and now I am trying to heal.
Hurt me with the truth, but never comfort me with a lie.
Posts: 118 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Sacramento, Ca
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