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webmistress posted 10/5/2013 08:36 AM

I can't believe I'm 3 years past the most traumatic event of my life. The day I not only found out about OW, but also OC. My heart still starts beating a little faster when I think about it. That entire next year was wretched as my H and I divorced, my father died, and I discovered OW was living with XH for awhile. Devastating.

But, for those just embarking on this journey, and think the adage "time heals all wounds" is just a good sound byte because clearly YOUR pain is unbearable.....I can tell you that time really does heal. 3 years ago I would have told you that the idea of XH and I getting back together was unthinkable. But, we're in R. It is slooooooow going, and we still have work to do, but I feel that we're in a much more positive space than we were even before the A.

My goal is to get to a place where this is just another day on the calendar. I think XH and I are going on a date tonight to enjoy ourselves and hopefully replace the bad memory this day represents, and Monday we have a counseling appointment. So hang in there if you're struggling. If your WS is truly remorseful, things will eventually fall into place.

AFrayedKnot posted 10/5/2013 09:05 AM

great update!!! Thank you for the hope. Have fun tonight

unfound posted 10/5/2013 09:13 AM

My goal is to get to a place where this is just another day on the calendar.

Sounds impossible, but it certainly can and does happen. Keep up the hard work, and enjoy your reclaiming night