ME: 54 BS
You can't push it out of your mind, and you shouldn't...It will never go away unless you deal with it.
You need to face it, process it, accept it, and move forward. None of this can happen if your H:
just want to forget it happened and not talk about it
As for forgiveness: Don't stress over that right now (or ever). Forgiveness can't be forced and IMO is not necessarily required for successful R...Acceptance on the other hand is.
Your H needs to step up and start making a huge effort in R.
[This message edited by RidingHealingRd at 1:28 AM, October 6th (Sunday)]
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.