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tesla posted 10/6/2013 07:53 AM

Yesterday was one of the neatest days of my non-dating NB and I just had to share.

After ex-shat left, I was panicked as a SAHM...I had no idea how I was going to get back into the workforce since we lived in an area that I'm not originally from. I remember putting in 10+ teaching applications to area school districts. No calls back. Not. One.

One day on a district website I saw an opening for assistant girls cross country coach for the local high school. I ran cross country in high school and have been running ever since. I figured I've got nothing to lose, so I applied. Almost didn't get the job because the head coach was looking for more of a cheerleader than someone who had knowledge...but he decided to take a chance and go a different route than what he had in the past.
That first year coaching them was fun and a needed distraction from the D and ex-shat antics. But D and ex-shat antics were definetely in the foreground and coaching was in the background.

This season that shifted. The further out I've gotten from D, the more mental energy I've had freed up to spend on my girls. They are the daughters I will never have. I love watching them gain confidence and attain their goals. I love being that other adult in their lives that they can come and share their joys and sorrows with. And I really love teaching them to run!

Yesterday, they had their conference meet and won it by one point over our rival to claim the conference championship. (If you know cross country, you know what a big deal winning by a point is). It's the first time they have done that in their school's history. I was so proud and grateful to have the opportunity to be involved in it.

When I first joined SI, I remember reading that the best revenge is a life well-lived. You know what, I didn't even think about that yesterday...didn't even think about ex-shat at all. Didn't once say to myself: "Ha! Ex-shat, my life is so much better and I've shown you!" Nope, not once did I think that because I don't care. I don't care about comparing my life to his life anymore. I just live my life and love it now.

Thanks for letting me share

NaiveAgain posted 10/6/2013 09:21 AM

That is an awesome post and it is really neat to see how you have grown into the position.

You sound like you are in a good place right now. I'm glad!

nowiknow23 posted 10/6/2013 09:47 AM

cmego posted 10/6/2013 09:48 AM

little turtle posted 10/6/2013 09:49 AM

That's awesome!!

macakipa posted 10/6/2013 10:00 AM

Love it

FaithFool posted 10/6/2013 10:53 AM

Love
This.

ruinedandbroken posted 10/6/2013 11:19 AM

I love this post!

I went to my first XC meet yesterday to cheer on my son's friend. The excitement in the air was so fun! I have recently gotten into running so it was so cool for me to watch the kids try so hard to beat their times. So many kids were crossing the finish line wearing only one shoe because their shoe had fallen off in the course and they wouldn't stop to put in on. I loved it! Made me wish I could go back to HS myself and run XC. :)

seekingright2013 posted 10/6/2013 11:32 AM

That is awesome! Thank you so much for sharing this.

wildbananas posted 10/6/2013 13:26 PM

Awesome, tesla!

Artemisia posted 10/6/2013 15:15 PM

Claps, claps, claps! Thank you for posting.

phmh posted 10/6/2013 19:52 PM

Great job, and so inspirational! That truly is the best revenge, and even better that you don't really care. Yay!!! And congrats!

Bluebird26 posted 10/6/2013 21:30 PM

Yay! So happy for you Tesla.

[This message edited by Bluebird26 at 9:30 PM, October 6th (Sunday)]

tryingagain74 posted 10/6/2013 22:00 PM

That's awesome, tesla! Way to go as a coach and as an enlightened being who has left her dungbeetle ex and moved on to the state of "meh"!

persevere posted 10/6/2013 23:08 PM

Just an awesome post tesla - just what I needed.

numbandnauseous posted 10/6/2013 23:36 PM

Congratulations, tesla and girls' cross country team!!!! (hands clapping icon)

Much hope for continued happy days like this in your NB!!!!

fraeuken posted 10/6/2013 23:57 PM

Tesla, as a mom of 2 girls I am so thankful for women like you.

DD16 has a wonderful, inspiring water polo coach. This lady made sure DD16 would re-join the team when she was going through a period of depression; she rallied the troops and DD16 got back into the sport and now is captain of the JV team.

Thank you so much for your dedication. And maybe you will that daughter one day, maybe a step daughter?

Keep going strong!

Bebba1171 posted 10/7/2013 07:56 AM

Way to go Tesla!!

MyVoice posted 10/7/2013 08:36 AM

awesome post thanks for sharing and congrats on living life well

[This message edited by MyVoice at 8:37 AM, October 7th (Monday)]

Newlease posted 10/7/2013 09:30 AM

I know that some sports are overemphasized in our world today, but it has been my experience that extra-curricular activities enhance the learning process in school.

This is particularly true when great caring coaches like you step up.

Bravo!

NL