Wow. Our histories have many commonalities. Sorry we are here...
I just read in NJF (pg 94) that one study shows that only 10% of involved partners who left the M because of infidelity will end up marrying the AP.
One study, but interesting stat.
It sickens me to think that my poor kids could have to deal with OW as 'stepmom' if we can't R. Two of them found out about the A 6 months before I did. Now my youngest knows too. Do you think they could ever accept her (or want to? )
And don't they think that my kids would eventually tell her kids? Good Lord, they really delude themselves in a fantasy of how this can possibly all work out.
Glad you are finding the strength to walk away. I am slowly getting there. Wish I had more clarity. But good for you! I hope you or your children never have to deal with OW as 'stepmom'. Ugh. Awful.