My BH and I were separated for 9 months after he discovered my A.
While we were separated we had split custody of our 4 year old daughter...she was with me at my parents house for 4 1/2 days a week and spent the rest of the time with my husband in our home.
We have been back in our home for two months and our DD keeps telling us she wants to go back to grandma and grandpa's house with mommy. At first she had a hard time adjusting and was acting out...bedtime was a nightly battle and she started to misbehave more often.
Her behavior has gotten better, but she still says she liked it better before. My BH and I have explained to her that mommy and daddy are trying to fix our problems and we are going to all live together now. We have reassured her that although she maybe having a hard time adjusting right now it will get easier for all of us.
I have noticed that when she and I are home alone her behavior is much different...she and I will have wonderful days together and her behavior and listening will be perfect...but then when my BH gets home she will start misbehaving and will no longer listen.
I'm not sure if this is her still adjusting or something else? My BH and I have different parenting styles, but tried to keep things consistent while we were separated.
I'm not sure what to do now though...do we just give her more time to adjust to all the changes? My poor BH sometimes takes it personally that she will be good all day for me but then acts up once he is home.