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TheAmazingWondertwin (original poster member #40769) posted at 7:52 PM on Sunday, October 6th, 2013
I have to say that after my emotional crash on Thursday- this weekend has been amazing. We are 9weeks into R and I know we still have a lot of road to travel...but it has been really great- and HONEST for the first time since this started.
It has been two days since I have cried.
Since I have had a rock in my chest.
Since I have felt like I cannot breathe.
It has been two days since a mind movie has played.
It has been two days since I have felt truly depressed and angry.
It has been two days of open and honest communication between H and me. (And I? Whatever)
There is so much we both have learned about eachother through this.
I am so proud of the man that I married right now. THIS is the man that I stayed for. THIS is the reason I chose to stay and fight.
I know things may get rocky again- but the man I have seen over the last 2 days (2 months really) is the man that I love.
And for the first time in a long time- I know I made the right decision.
Just call me Wonder
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 7:58 PM on Sunday, October 6th, 2013
What a great post. I needed some good news today!
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 9:21 PM on Sunday, October 6th, 2013
Very happy for you Wondertwin.
You are right. You will be on a rollercoaster of emotions for awhile yet. However, you should find that the days "up" get longer and the "down" days are shorter. That is, as long as your H continues to be remorseful and you both continue working on getting an authentic connection to each other in your marriage.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
neverdidithink ( member #40568) posted at 12:53 AM on Monday, October 7th, 2013
This is fantastic news! I'm thrilled that you guys have found the openness and complete honesty you need to move forward. Good for you for having the courage to put it all on the table.
BS, 57
M 13 years
second marriage, second WH
4 kids in their 20s
TheAmazingWondertwin (original poster member #40769) posted at 11:19 AM on Monday, October 7th, 2013
Thank you twinnie! I'm going to cherish the good while its here. It is hard to trust again- but I am taking it one conversation at a time.
I will say- each conversation leads to another one and some seem so unrelated, but in the end- it all leads back. We have spent 90 percent of our free time dealing with this. But we both agree it is helping.
Just call me Wonder
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017
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