We're in the process of trying to get control of the money. Sister sold Mom's house against Mom's & the rest of the family's wishes. Threw out all household contents, heirlooms, helped herself to other priceless heirlooms & collectibles that have been in the family for 200 years. All gone now, liquidated, gone.
She had Mom declared mentally incompetent, even though Mom is NOT mentally incompetent. We are working to reverse that now. She had herself declared Mom's executor and gave herself POA. Again, against Mom's wishes.
Mom has always been too afraid to stand up to this particular sister. Never wanted to believe this was happening. My other sisters also put their heads in the sand and wouldn't take a stand with me. Much of this could have been prevented if they would have been willing to put up with this sister's temporary wrath with me. As it is I think there's not much I can do now. I have no money to hire a lawyer, and even if I did my sisters & Mom STILL don't want to make the predatory sister mad or hurt her feelings.
Can we say dysfunctional, boys & girls?
I've been giving my sisters copies of the state laws & explanatory websites for over a year, trying to get them to take action. NOW, finally, they're taking action, but it's too late.