Forgiveness means understanding, acceptance and giving up on looking back.
I feel it was very empathetic of your WH to suggest he stop going. You probably would still trigger, though.
What I feel might help me if I was in this situation I would want my FWH to be more "hands on" with me. Like, holding my hand, or sitting with his arm around me. Physical touch of my FWH really calms my triggers, maybe it will help you, too.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
A trigger is a trigger and we really don't have control over what causes us to trigger. Maybe some more will stop by and see if they have more advice on how to help you with this trigger.
[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 6:32 PM, October 6th (Sunday)]
I used to avoid any events she will be at. But we are 6 years out, and have since moved, so I don't know how I'd react now.
If I read correctly, your Dday is still relatively new. Don't get down on yourself. Triggers pop up in the strangest of places.
Madhatters. More Ddays than birthdays, at this point.