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I just joined about 2 days ago and first off nearly everyone seems pretty normal. I've gotten about 70 messages - which is kinda overwhelming esp since I'm in a smallish town, but I figure I popped up on the "new list" so I'm the shiny new toy in the sand lot. And most of them are just "hi"... but a handful include a decent amount of info/interaction to get a conversation started

BUT...
I just read this one man's profile and he goes on and on about what type of pubic hair he wants in in g/f!!!

LOL!!!

*shaking my head*

and he includes a section about sending nude pics.
(granted lots of people do that... but to post it in your profile!!)

If I see him at the supermarket I know I'll just crack up (and dodge down another isle)!

Dating sure has changed in the past 15 years *sigh*

[This message edited by PhoenixRisen at 3:41 PM, October 6th (Sunday)]

Yup, some days are overwhelming with the contact, and the same guys contact me over and over and over.

I've learned to send a polite no "thank you", I stay away from any profile that is sex focused or generally weird.

Overall, I've learned to roll my eyes, respond to the ones that I have a vague interest in, stay away from most of the "separated" men and just try to have some fun.

I've been reading these OLD posts in this forum for a while.

I got a puppy instead.

Yes, the initial onslaught of interest when you first sign up is normal. It'll slow down.

I've gotten good at ignoring the crazy sounding profiles. A lot of times I will say a simple 'Thanks but I'm looking for someone local' which ends the emails.

In the last couple of weeks, I've been in contact with a few men I've met online. It's refreshing when the respectable ones do NOT ask for "more pics". After talking about two weeks, I went out on a first date last night with a very nice man (and HOT!!). Hopefully things go well.

You just have to be patient and weed through them!

Boundaries are extremely important in OLD. Don't accept anything that concerns you.,