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PhoenixRisen posted 10/6/2013 15:41 PM

I just joined about 2 days ago and first off nearly everyone seems pretty normal. I've gotten about 70 messages - which is kinda overwhelming esp since I'm in a smallish town, but I figure I popped up on the "new list" so I'm the shiny new toy in the sand lot. And most of them are just "hi"... but a handful include a decent amount of info/interaction to get a conversation started

BUT...
I just read this one man's profile and he goes on and on about what type of pubic hair he wants in in g/f!!!

LOL!!!

*shaking my head*

and he includes a section about sending nude pics.
(granted lots of people do that... but to post it in your profile!!)

If I see him at the supermarket I know I'll just crack up (and dodge down another isle)!

Dating sure has changed in the past 15 years *sigh*

[This message edited by PhoenixRisen at 3:41 PM, October 6th (Sunday)]

cmego posted 10/6/2013 17:12 PM

Yup, some days are overwhelming with the contact, and the same guys contact me over and over and over.

I've learned to send a polite no "thank you", I stay away from any profile that is sex focused or generally weird.

Overall, I've learned to roll my eyes, respond to the ones that I have a vague interest in, stay away from most of the "separated" men and just try to have some fun.

hellzapoppin posted 10/6/2013 17:25 PM

I've been reading these OLD posts in this forum for a while.

I got a puppy instead.

GrievingMommy posted 10/6/2013 18:34 PM

Yes, the initial onslaught of interest when you first sign up is normal. It'll slow down.

I've gotten good at ignoring the crazy sounding profiles. A lot of times I will say a simple 'Thanks but I'm looking for someone local' which ends the emails.

In the last couple of weeks, I've been in contact with a few men I've met online. It's refreshing when the respectable ones do NOT ask for "more pics". After talking about two weeks, I went out on a first date last night with a very nice man (and HOT!!). Hopefully things go well.

You just have to be patient and weed through them!

persevere posted 10/7/2013 01:08 AM

Boundaries are extremely important in OLD. Don't accept anything that concerns you.,