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PhoenixRisen (original poster member #35912) posted at 9:41 PM on Sunday, October 6th, 2013
I just joined about 2 days ago and first off nearly everyone seems pretty normal. I've gotten about 70 messages - which is kinda overwhelming esp since I'm in a smallish town, but I figure I popped up on the "new list" so I'm the shiny new toy in the sand lot. And most of them are just "hi"... but a handful include a decent amount of info/interaction to get a conversation started
BUT...
I just read this one man's profile and he goes on and on about what type of pubic hair he wants in in g/f!!!
LOL!!!
*shaking my head*
and he includes a section about sending nude pics.
(granted lots of people do that... but to post it in your profile!!)
If I see him at the supermarket I know I'll just crack up (and dodge down another isle)!
Dating sure has changed in the past 15 years *sigh*
[This message edited by PhoenixRisen at 3:41 PM, October 6th (Sunday)]
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 11:12 PM on Sunday, October 6th, 2013
Yup, some days are overwhelming with the contact, and the same guys contact me over and over and over.
I've learned to send a polite no "thank you", I stay away from any profile that is sex focused or generally weird.
Overall, I've learned to roll my eyes, respond to the ones that I have a vague interest in, stay away from most of the "separated" men and just try to have some fun.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
hellzapoppin ( member #5655) posted at 11:25 PM on Sunday, October 6th, 2013
I've been reading these OLD posts in this forum for a while.
I got a puppy instead. 
Him-WH
Me - BW
M 22 years
Divorced by stealth
GrievingMommy ( member #28127) posted at 12:34 AM on Monday, October 7th, 2013
Yes, the initial onslaught of interest when you first sign up is normal. It'll slow down.
I've gotten good at ignoring the crazy sounding profiles. A lot of times I will say a simple 'Thanks but I'm looking for someone local' which ends the emails.
In the last couple of weeks, I've been in contact with a few men I've met online. It's refreshing when the respectable ones do NOT ask for "more pics". After talking about two weeks, I went out on a first date last night with a very nice man (and HOT!!). Hopefully things go well.
You just have to be patient and weed through them!
Me - Now 36 y/o
WXH: Now 45 y/o and 18+ hrs away -NPD asshole now onto wife #3.
My sweeties: 5 yr old B/G twins. 90% custody (or more) since 14 months old.
D-Day 4/4/10 PA('s?) & EA's - D'd 7/11
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 7:08 AM on Monday, October 7th, 2013
Boundaries are extremely important in OLD. Don't accept anything that concerns you.,
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
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