So during H's A he was a mean ass to me 98% of the time. Lately he is miserable at his job and has been a bit snippy and quick to attack verbally. It has been setting off triggers. Not that he is cheating but that he is being mean and disrespectful. I've called him out on it and he apologizes, I've ignored it and he usually apologizes. So not the same guy. But that mean fucker is in there.
Friday night after a super busy week someone, not saying me not saying it wasn't me, left cocoa butter on the counter and the Lab with the gut of steel ate it. Now mind you she got into the prior batch and I was going to make my lotion bars this weekend. J went out of his way got caught in ball game traffic and got more.
So we get home from the football game and the container is empty so H has a shit fit. I of course am sleep deprived (as many of you know is a horrible thing for me emotionally) have a major trigger high speed come apart.
HERE'S THE PART THAT SHOWS HOW WE ARE BETTER NOW !!!
I calmed down and went and talked to H I did his behavior sucks and makes me trigger. I try my best but working full time being mom and helping run a side business leaves me exhausted and I need support not judgement. He agreed! He apologized! He gave me tons of love and support. Said there was NO excuse for his behavior and his misery from work was the cause. I knew that but his love support kind words and apologies made things so much better.
So yah the triggers the bad ones still rear their ugly head occasionally but the response from both of us is so different. We are better. We are stronger. We are happier.
Hang in there gang it is doable and happiness will be had.