Joanh, I wish I had the answers, cuz I need them too. I hope we (all) can make it through this.
Have you had IC for your CSA?
I wish I knew then how unsafe and unhealthy of a person I really am.
My therapist says we do the best we can at the time, with the tools we have. And to remember that I love my BH and our M was not a mistake. Our family was not a mistake. All you can do now is get healthy, be safe, and move forward. We can be remorseful, loving, and honest...but I'm not sure we can give our BSs their lives back. Only they can decide what they want, and how to get it.