Only I can't find a new apartment for my daughter and myself. the real estate market where we live is in some kind of a crazy bubble and prices have risen 10 to 15% as I have been looking. Not only are there very few places on the market but the bidding for them is very competitive. I lost a bid last week to two all cash offers.
It was hard to lose my marriage, crushing to lose my intact family but now I feel nothing but despair over finding a place to live. As I made Halloween decorations with my DD, 9, and her friend this weekend, it was everything I could do not to cry. I am starting to think that I won't be able to hold it together. For her, at work, at all. I am crying everyday now again just like in the beginning of this shitstorm. I am already taking ativan and ambian.
I am going to have to lower my expectations one more time. It seems too cruel that I now have to choose between a small and dark apartment or one that is very far from our friends, my DDs school, the life we know.
I can brainstorm some more ideas for you if it would help.
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Have you looked at possibly finding somebody to share a place with? That can advantageous for a couple of reasons, 1. cheaper; 2. built in babysitter (sometimes if needed.) I know it's tough, but that's probably what I would do if I had to. Do you have any family/friends that you can stay with for awhile? That could be an option for you. If you want to find a roommate, you can post notices on college bulletins, and be sure to meet any prospective person(s) in a public arena. You can NOT be too careful.
None of this is fair, honestly, you didn't do anything wrong yet you continue to be punished. Keep reading on forgiveness (it's for you not him) and seek anybody you can just sit and vent to, that's what your friends are for. I hope things work out for you.
Status: We're going to try IC one more time.
New place = new memories. I know it is hard but It will be ok.
I know it doesn't seem like it, but you do still have some time to figure things out. Take PPs advice, there are options out there.
And know that where ever you end up, your DD will be fine. You just need to present it to her as an "adventure". Kids are so much more adaptable than we are.
Then a year later, bought something, had money saved and a direction.
For me, I bought a much smaller house in a good neighborhood. I look at is as an investment for my future I'm here for now, and no, it isn't my dream house, but when my kids are older...or I meet a great man and want to marry again, I can sell it for a tidy profit!