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User Topic: Transitioning out of R? Or just a phase?
♀ 39415
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Default  Posted: 6:53 AM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am currently in a phase of thinking "I would date WH but never marry him" knowing what I know now about his character. We are 5 months into R and actually just had our first weekend without an A "flare up" (aka one of us breaking down). I wonder if it is because things are getting better or if it is because I am starting to care less...

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♀ 36519
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honestly? All part of the roller coaster, IMO. I had moments -- nay, DAYS -- when I would have happily divorced the jerk. I had days of total apathy. Etc, etc At 5 months out... emotions are still flip-flopping wildly. And yes, sometimes reactions were actually more acute after a "good" weekend. Something about the contrast between "normality" and all of the strong feelings you're having.


BS (me): 51
WS: 52
Married: 27 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

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♀ 39415
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah Blobette - that is what I am thinking too which is why I am trying to NOT make any decisions or proclamations right now. Just wait and see how it plays out. As a childless stepmom I have very little incentive or need to stay should I decide that he is not the right person to be with long term though. My feelings now though are not anger - rather pity and sympathy - kind of like "Oh WH you soooo don't deserve me and I am sorry for that, but lets have fun for now because it just won't last"

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