I have been implementing 180 and doing NC to the best of my ability (keeping it to kids and finances, but being cordial when we have to see each other with the kids present).
This morning I got a text and an email that I'm not sure how to respond to. The text is asking if I want him to pick up DD and DS#1 after school. If he had phrased it "I would like to..." I would be fine, but he phrased it "would it be helpful if I..." On the one hand, I don't want to keep him from seeing the kids, or give him the impression that I am doing that. On the other hand, I don't want him to feel like he's helping me out. Picking them up is part of my daily schedule, and its not a big deal for me to do it. Should I let him do it, and if so, how should I phrase the reply?
The email was just saying that he is putting in a vitamin order and has a discount and do I need to add anything to the order. Again, I feel like this is him trying to be the nice guy so he feels less guilty, and I don't want to give him that. But I could use the vitamins, and between the two households and the shutdown, money is tight.
Am I over thinking all of this?