I am reading a new book for me. "Intimacy after infidelity". Authors are Steven D. Solomon, PH.D. and Lorie J. Teagno, PH.D.
In this book they state that Infidelity is not a dealbreaker.
The three dealbreakers are:
1. One or both parnters were never in love with the other.
2. Over a long period of time(7-10 years) so much hurt and anger were inflicted by one or both partners that it killed the love that once was there.
3. One or both partners refuse to own their part in the difficulties in the ltlr and or they sincerely refuse to work on their contributions to the relationships problems.
This has me very confused. Aren't these three dealbreakers many of the reasons for the infidelity to begin with? Woulnd't this make an A a deal breaker?