[This message edited by StillLivin at 7:29 PM, October 7th (Monday)]
So sorry for the pain and douchebaggery you have to tolerate.
Short answer to 'why' = he is a dick.
FTG FTG FTG FTG FTG FTG
Sending you strength to continue until you get to the end of this abuse.
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
Oh wow, do I relate to this post! Though XWH and I don't have contact the way you are still having to put up with, he still finds a way. Always he finds a way to do or say something vindictive, as though I'm the one that screwed him over. I finally realized that in his f*cked up NPD brain, that's the truth. Of course, he's angry, of course, he wants to hurt me. He's the victim here, remember? I'm the bitch.
It's utter crap but it's the sea they swim in, SL. From their twisted perspective, everything they do is justified and makes perfect sense. It sucks but try not to buy into it. (I struggle with this every day too!)
Like you, I was very good to him. I was childless-by-choice when I met him but I took on his five kids and loved them like my own. I supported him when he lost his job and then finally got another one for 1/2 as much money. I'm pretty much financially ruined now, because of him.
Everyone keeps saying it gets better, it gets easier. I hope they're right, for you and me.
More hugs to you ((StillLivin)).
Hang in there.
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin
It's blatantly obvious that your XWH has got some real issues going on. No sane person could ever understand someone experiencing the pain of being cheated on and then dealing the same blow to someone else and then being a complete d*ck about it in it's wake. I'm glad that you are doing everything you can to disconnect from this "thing" that likes to call himself a human. You WILL be better off, far better off.
"I can fill the flask up, but can't get past us
I'm in the storm, staying strong, but can't get back