I had several bandaids myself. I thought if I could distract myself then I wouldn't need to feel the feelings that were consuming me.
It held them off for a little while but it didn't bypass them - it only delayed them and IMHO it made them all the more intense because it made my life more complicated at a time when I was not equipped to handle it. I needed simplicity.
I know it is tempting but please remember - broken attracts broken. Give yourself time and space to heal and grow from this.
You are not going crazy - it is pretty normal. You're looking for something, anything, that can help you get through this. For me a lot of it was running away from myself too. We all know you can't run away from yourself.
((Gajit)) OW isn't healing him - she is helping him keep himself sick. If he focusses on her and the toxic dance they are doing he thinks he can avoid facing himself. In time this fades and he'll need the rush of someone new yet again.
Please read "She's Special" (second article down): http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/12/20/a-vain-fantasy-his-one-true-love-the-exception-that-confirms-the-rule/
And Romantic Infidelity