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Divorce/Separation :
Barb Du Jour

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 erzulie (original poster member #3293) posted at 2:48 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

So, I am taking the advice of this panel of wise, smart, experienced and generous folk, and will lob my barbs here versus at WH via email. Hopefully at the very least, you all can find some entertainment value in them.

Here goes the first one:

WH: "I was going to ask you if we could have an open marriage."

ME: "Sure, we can have an open marriage! You have my full permission to go fuck yourself."

A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.

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Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 2:50 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

Awesome. Yes definitely post them here! And don't waste that gem on the jerk!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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Dreamboat ( member #10506) posted at 3:11 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

That is great!!!

And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:17 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

erzulie - the best part of posting them here instead of with him? Is that we are a receptive and admiring crowd.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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sleepless34 ( member #40274) posted at 4:04 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

BTW, I got this question too...

WH: "I was going to ask you if we could have an open marriage"

YOU: "Yah, I will open the door and throw your ass out"

Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 8:31 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Bravenewgirl ( member #36267) posted at 9:54 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

WH once proposed this to me too, but told me he was uncomfortable with me doing it, and would I consider having a one way open marriage?

AS. IF. Sheesh.

Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty

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 erzulie (original poster member #3293) posted at 3:30 PM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

Barb Du Jour Day 2:

WH: "I was going to ask you if we could have an open marriage."

ME: "Really? Awesome! I have a list of guys I've been wanting to screw for a long time. Let me get it out ... will you take care of the dogs Friday night? I want to get started."

A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.

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k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 3:33 PM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

^^^^^^ snork ^^^^^^

k9

BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 3:46 PM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

"Dude, hold my earrings."

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 3:58 PM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

Hey, you're good at this!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 10:34 PM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

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caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 10:57 PM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

I agree, you are good at this!!

btw, I got the open marriage question too.

Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 11:16 PM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013

That's our erzulie!

I knew you'd be back!

AJ's MOM

Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34

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 erzulie (original poster member #3293) posted at 2:47 AM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

Barb Du Jour, Day 3:

WH: "I could not talk to you about my faith"

ME: "Why?"

WH: "Because you used 'Jesus Christ!' as an expletive!"

ME: "Oh, for Christ's sake, jumpin' Judas Jehovah. God DAMN that is the most inane thing I've ever heard. Jesus H. Christ."

A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.

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 erzulie (original poster member #3293) posted at 8:09 PM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013

Barb Du Jour Day Four:

WH: "I want to renew my relationship with Jesus"

ME: "Oh, yeah? Well, good. Let's start with a "come to Jesus", then, about your behavior."

A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.

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Skan ( member #35812) posted at 2:47 AM on Sunday, October 13th, 2013

And just remember, asswipe, that it's come TO Jesus and not come WITH Jesus.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


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LeopoldB ( member #40606) posted at 3:23 AM on Sunday, October 13th, 2013

me: When I said that we are all in the same boat,

I didn't think you were going to do the entire crew.

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SerJR ( member #14993) posted at 2:10 PM on Sunday, October 13th, 2013

((((erzulie))))

As long as you engage, you are letting him pull your strings and allowing him to live rent free in your head.

Yes, sometimes things need to be said for that emotional release... but please don't let him drag you down into his little hell. You are so much better than that. Your anger is good... it is just... but focus it towards moving forward with your life. Let go of this insanity. You are capable of so much more...

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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