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User Topic: Barb Du Jour
erzulie
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Evil  Posted: 8:48 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, I am taking the advice of this panel of wise, smart, experienced and generous folk, and will lob my barbs here versus at WH via email. Hopefully at the very least, you all can find some entertainment value in them.

Here goes the first one:

WH: "I was going to ask you if we could have an open marriage."

ME: "Sure, we can have an open marriage! You have my full permission to go fuck yourself."


A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.


Posts: 3377 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: California
Take2
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome. Yes definitely post them here! And don't waste that gem on the jerk!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4166 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great!!!


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17695 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

erzulie - the best part of posting them here instead of with him? Is that we are a receptive and admiring crowd.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26192 | Registered: Aug 2011
sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BTW, I got this question too...

WH: "I was going to ask you if we could have an open marriage"

YOU: "Yah, I will open the door and throw your ass out"


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 2:31 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5658 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Bravenewgirl
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Default  Posted: 3:54 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH once proposed this to me too, but told me he was uncomfortable with me doing it, and would I consider having a one way open marriage?

AS. IF. Sheesh.


Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty

Posts: 661 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Canada
erzulie
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Barb Du Jour Day 2:

WH: "I was going to ask you if we could have an open marriage."

ME: "Really? Awesome! I have a list of guys I've been wanting to screw for a long time. Let me get it out ... will you take care of the dogs Friday night? I want to get started."


A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.


Posts: 3377 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: California
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^^^ snork ^^^^^^


k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6607 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Dude, hold my earrings."


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5658 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey, you're good at this!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10026 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BS
2 kids: DD16 and DS19
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7849 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree, you are good at this!!

btw, I got the open marriage question too.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's our erzulie!

I knew you'd be back!

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21103 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
erzulie
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Barb Du Jour, Day 3:

WH: "I could not talk to you about my faith"

ME: "Why?"

WH: "Because you used 'Jesus Christ!' as an expletive!"

ME: "Oh, for Christ's sake, jumpin' Judas Jehovah. God DAMN that is the most inane thing I've ever heard. Jesus H. Christ."


A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.


Posts: 3377 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: California
erzulie
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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Barb Du Jour Day Four:

WH: "I want to renew my relationship with Jesus"

ME: "Oh, yeah? Well, good. Let's start with a "come to Jesus", then, about your behavior."


A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.


Posts: 3377 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: California
Skan
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And just remember, asswipe, that it's come TO Jesus and not come WITH Jesus.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5097 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
LeopoldB
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

me: When I said that we are all in the same boat,
I didn't think you were going to do the entire crew.

Posts: 212 | Registered: Sep 2013
SerJR
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((erzulie))))

As long as you engage, you are letting him pull your strings and allowing him to live rent free in your head.

Yes, sometimes things need to be said for that emotional release... but please don't let him drag you down into his little hell. You are so much better than that. Your anger is good... it is just... but focus it towards moving forward with your life. Let go of this insanity. You are capable of so much more...


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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