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Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 4:12 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013
But for a good reason. There is not much the POS can do or say anymore to bring me to tears, but my children are my Achilles heel, as they are for the rest of you dedicated parents. DS20 was telling me about his new GF via text because he wanted me to know something about her up front (she's a single mother). I have no problem with that and said as much, along with my sage motherly advise not to rush into anything (he just got over a bad breakup). His response is what turned the waterworks on as the conversation veered toward the subject of the POS. DS20 wrote: "Have I told you lately that I love you?And it absolutely kills me what he [POS] did to you. It honestly does, and there are no words I could say to describe my remorse for you and what you are going through!"
My kids are now my life, and that statement made me cry like a baby. They are the only ones who can do that to me...but it is all good and I will turn into a waterfall for them any day!
ETA: Then he sends: "I love you so ever dearly mom and that much will never change. No matter who I'm with or where I am. I'll always be there for you. Always."
Well crap, I am a total blithering hot mess of tears now...
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 11:10 PM, October 7th (Monday)]
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
beachbunny ( member #35476) posted at 4:38 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013
That made me cry, too.
I can only hope my boys do the same for me one day.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 4:55 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 5:02 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013
“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21
AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 5:31 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013
That's beautiful.
Just shows you've done a wonderful job as a mom 
Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14
fallingquickly ( member #36599) posted at 6:42 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013
That made me cry as well. Lovely.
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 7:27 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013
My screen's all blurry...
My DS15 has been awesome to me... He found out about my WH's A 6 months before I did. I know he's torn up about it all.
It is so good to read that your adult son "gets it" and will hopefully have learned the "right" lesson in all of this, so that we aren't passing down a bunch of FOO issues to our kids. I desperately hope that my boys will come out of this with the proper values and don't follow in their dad's footsteps.
Your son sounds just awesome. I'm pretty sure I will someday get a similar message from my awesome son(s). I hope to make them proud of the woman I am going to become!!!!
[This message edited by StillStanding1 at 1:28 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)]
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
kg201 ( member #40173) posted at 2:46 PM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2013
Good for him! It is so important to tell the ones we love that we do...more often than we think we are.
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
FieldsOfLavender ( member #39154) posted at 3:13 AM on Wednesday, October 9th, 2013
I'm also a blithering waterworks and he's not even my son!
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