My H & I are taking a marriage class at church. People at church do not know about his A and I/we prefer it that way.
Last week we didn't know sex & infidelity would be the topic of the lesson until after we got there.
As soon as I heard that I thought "OK I'm going to get through this."
About half way through the class I knew I was going to lose it. So I excused myself to the bathroom, took a second to cry, got myself back together, and went back to finish the class.
On the way home my H said "I wasn't sure if you needed to use the restroom or get away."
I'm calling that a win/win.
If my H wasn't sure I needed to escape, hopefully no one else caught it.
My H was sensitive to feelings.
It opened the door for discussion not just about me, but about him also.