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User Topic: Just a moment
♂ 40173
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been feeling sad today. A tug of war about where things have come to with my wife and where I thought things were. I'm sad about her health and that she has chosen a path that I can't be on with her. I'm sad, but hopeful for myself. My WW will be getting a notice in the next week or so from the court...I think that is what is setting me off. But I made the decision even though it was done with mixed emotions.

Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

Posts: 1155 | Registered: Aug 2013
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you, kg. Even though they have basically made the decision for us, it doesn't make it easy.

Take care of yourself, and find joy in whatever little things you can right now. Even when the big things suck (and they do suck), you can usually find some little thing that will at least bring a temporary smile.

You're a strong motherfucker who is doing what needs to be done. Take some pride in that.

Me: 1970
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?

Married Aug/95
DDay Nov/12
Separated Mar/13
Finally divorced Jul/17

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 3623 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
♂ 32258
Member # 32258
Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember those feelings. for me it happened when I called the lawyer and then when I actually met to start the paperwork. It's normal. You can't control what your STBXW does anymore but it's normal to mourn the relationship you had with her. Keep moving forward KG. Focus on things you want to do and know these feelings don't last forever either. It gets better.

D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

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