Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Well, at 5 weeks after I moved out, I was still a bawling wreck. 5 weeks is nothing.
Hang in there and keep moving forward. Remember that you can't control your wife or her feelings/reactions...you can only control YOU. Building a better "you" needs to be your top priority. Yes, it should have been done years & years ago, so you could spend this time enjoying your life and your family...but it wasn't; neither was it in my case. You gotta start sometime, though. You do NOT want more time to go by, staying the same person, with the same patterns, getting the same results, and then waking up one day in your 80s realizing your whole life has been a waste. Better to do the work now.
Husband: XBS, 40s
Married 2.5 years
We remarried in 2014.