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It's been 2 years since d-day, my husband has been trying since I found out about the A to fix all the damage. We have come a long way now. But when it was a year later I felt the need for a seperation but he wouldn't move out. So I actually dated a little with him still in our house. After months and failed dates I started wanting to try and make things work again. Then I just felt such a need for revenge on the ow who had such a big part in ruining my life. So I put an account for her on ashley Madison. I even put her face pic on there. I felt since she wanted married men there are many on there for her. Well I got some laughs giving random guys her info and telling them where they could find her for a good time. Lol. Well seeing how many married men were on there looking to have affairs just upset me so much and made me feel angry all over again. Some of these men seemed so sure that they deserved to have an affair, that they didn't want to ruin their home life but just looking for a side girlfriend. I tried changing some of the minds of the men that contacted the girl I was pretending to be. I said don't do this to your wife, go fix things in your marriage instead of looking elsewhere or get divorced first. I started to think I could change their minds and prevent them from having affairs. But sadly I could not. So many people are just selfish. They do not want to hear that they may ruin their marriage. They all think they won't get caught. I even said that's not the point. Everyone thinks they won't get caught. How about just don't do it. But nope. Nobody would listen. It's very eye opening how many people are in affairs or looking to be in one. It's sad and scary. And I would've been happy to just change 1 mind. Or to prevent 1 wife from going through the pain that I went through. So it started out as a way for revenge a quick laugh but then I was just trying to be a hero and save a marriage. Oh well they will learn their lessons in their own time. I'm sure.