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User Topic: Is "insanely clingy" a phase for the WS? WS and BS welcome
TheAmazingWondertwin
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just looking for some input/stories/etc. about when the very remorseful WS started realizing how much they hurt the BS.
Mine is so lovey, clingy, romantic, talking with me all the time...THIS IS NOT BAD...
I am just wondering how long he can keep it up.
Is this the new him? (Because I do need to work, take care of the kids, etc. etc.) I joke a little- but you get the idea.

Any stories from both sides are welcome.

Any input on how the truly remorseful WS behaves and is it a phase, or the new him?


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 40
Him- FWS 36
15 years
DD- 14 and DS- 13
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
full truth: November 14, 2013
A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC
Working on R

Posts: 801 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
hopefullromantic
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, it probably won't last. You are sort of in a honeymoon phase now, and we know those don't last. Remember, he went thru a trauma also, albeit self imposed. He could have lost you! Things will settle down and you might actually miss the clinging a little bit.


It's not really a fairy tale 'till the witch is deposed and a few dragons are slain

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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's been 4 years and while I'm not insanely clingy, I do want to be with my H A LOT.


FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

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Zayda1
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH gets like this. It seems to go in cycles. Enjoy it while it lasts.


Married 9 years, together for 11 years
2 children (8 years & 5 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)

Posts: 472 | Registered: Apr 2012
Zayda1
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oops, double post. Dumb tablet.

[This message edited by Zayda1 at 3:52 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)]


Married 9 years, together for 11 years
2 children (8 years & 5 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)

Posts: 472 | Registered: Apr 2012
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It comes and goes with me. In the early days, I was a leech.

Now, it comes and goes. If we hit a downward slump or if one of us triggers badly, I'll get more "clingy".

I'm not really a "touchy" person, but I do my best to stay near and in close contact during those phases.


"You give me that bottom of the 9th, last at bat, tied game, grand slam, full of butterflies kind of feeling." - My Husband

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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TheAmazingWondertwin
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone for your responses. Sincerely.
But I must say... I am really starting to get tired of the word "phase".
Is this how it's going to be? Every few weeks we get into another phase?
Oy vey.


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 40
Him- FWS 36
15 years
DD- 14 and DS- 13
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
full truth: November 14, 2013
A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC
Working on R

Posts: 801 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
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