T I M E !!! the four letter word all of us BS hate !
Have you done any reading about infidelity and looked deep into yourself ?
IC will help guide you through but a divorce group and really looking at yourself helps too.
Right now you're broken and it wouldn't be fair for you to involve another person until you've worked through what has happened.
One thing we as BS forget. The WS, many times, have months or years of detaching from us and the marriage. We need to do the work so we don't bring the XW/XH with us in the future.
Hugs and 7 mo from dday isn't long enough for most of us to be ready for dating.
ETA: One thing I realized when I knew I might be actually ready for someone else in my life is, I had no hate, no thoughts of FT, didn't care what he was doing or not, and just didn't give a damn about him any longer.
It didn't happen at once or fast for me.
When you hit indifference then you're close.
[This message edited by gma56 at 1:17 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)]