Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Are you in IC?
I think you need to work the 180 harder. Focus on YOU.
Do you have hobbies? Things you do for physical activity?
What sort of self-improvement project can you tackle? I think you will find more happiness working on something that makes you a better person after this hell you've been put through, than trying to bring another person into your life.
It sounds like you are not able to re-direct your thoughts. After the date you saw what you did, did you realize during the date you were talking about STBXWW? Were you just unable to change the subject? Does she occupy that much space in your head otherwise?
Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.
[This message edited by gma56 at 1:17 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)]
Which is cool! I think its okay and I need to be a little selfish now and do the things that bring me joy... like 13 mile runs and baby cuddles!
I'm hoping that one day I will run into Mr. Right in aisle 5 of a grocery store while buying the ingredients for my next new recipe adventure! You never know! Life is full of surprises and I'm just trying to keep an open mind...and stay positive.
I used to let the loneliness consume me....but its not worth the misery. Just live life and love life and love yourself and love who you are BY YOURSELF... and then someone will one day admire your happy glow..... and want to be a part of it!
[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:39 PM, October 11th (Friday)]
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12