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User Topic: Exciting opportunities - thanks supportive peeps!
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Member # 39551
Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've always worried more about what H and DS wanted, thought, felt, etc. about anything. Until H started W.

For the first year of our mess and no SI - even WORSE.

Finally - I can look at challenges and opportunities and be excited and think of things logically and for ME and know and have faith in myself that I can make nearly anything work.

People here showed me that.

Thank you!

I'm celebrating because I just got a part-time paid internship in an academic library which is VERY hard to get and majorly what I want because I want to work in an academic library after I finish my master's degree but its nearly impossible to get in WITHOUT experience.


I know working 40 hr real job, taking 6 grad credits per term, and now adding another 15 hours of work per week is going to be hard, its going to be exhausting, its going to piss H off to no end, I'm worried about taking too much of me away from my son but I COULD NOT BE HAPPIER!

And I like it.

Mom nearly died last week of a 90% blockage of her LAD.

I called her this morning when I had doubts about whether or not I could handle this.

She said "of anyone I know, YOU can handle this" and she doesn't even know about WH's and I's issues.

Between my family's support and my virtual friend's support - I have begun to believe again in the niceness of people and have been shown that if I focus on the good and minimize the bad, the good grows, the bad matters less and less.

I hope everyone on SI finds something to get excited about, I hope everyone on SI can have an open, positive mind to recognize any opportunity, despite their suffering.

Hugs to you all.

If I get super-duper busy, I'm still wishing for everyone struggling - peace and happiness. And hopefully the realization that no other person, a WS, AP, or anyone else for that matter, can take it from you if you grab it and hold onto it for yourself.

Oh, and yay prozac but maybe I can quit now?

Posts: 557 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Him: FWS
Kids: 18 & 20
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

Posts: 13180 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! An academic library sounds great!

fBH (me) - 66 on d-day, Married 43, together 45 on d-day, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
Most of us know only our own experience. That's not enough data to support a general rule that D, or R, is right in every sitch.

Posts: 16581 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
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