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livebythesea posted 10/9/2013 15:50 PM

Monday, h delivered package. I was aware of the delivery. Yet, it triggered flirtation. Thankfully, when h delivered package, her husband was home. Only found that out later.

Regardless, the point here is that he delivered a package, which I was aware of, yet I felt, if she come on to him and he may respond.

The feeling is insecurity, how do I get rid of it?

I do not want him to see I feel I secured, but I sure do feel it. It is purely he'll they put us through. Before I would have never given this a second thoug.

blakesteele posted 10/9/2013 16:33 PM

Delivered a package? Part of his job?

Yeah, my wife runs into her AP through the course of some of her work...their respective businesss overlap during certain functions.

To date my wife has avoided eye contact. But if they ever do make contact the A could happen again. I get your fear. I should say...for lack of a better explanation...he "dumped" her. So I get your fear.

How did I get past this insecurity? By fully accepting the fact that I can D too. It took time for me to get there...but I arrived.

There is no doubt in my mind if my wife makes the same choice now that she did then we will D. I doubt she will make that choice, but there is a nervousness inside her to even look at her AP...so I am not cocky enough to say their is no chance it could spawn again.

While I dont fear this, I do not completely trust her. That will take a while.

In the meantime I try to enjoy the present, read and pray a lot, visit SI a lot, and appreciate all in my life that is good.

It also sucks to let our WS see how their actions hurt us....none of us want to look weak. But we are all weak...everyone of us. It is when we think we are most strong that we are most vulnerable.

Keep the faith.