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User Topic: Defining the new relationship, letting go of the old?
lucy17
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My relationship with H will be forever changed. All relationships change with time and I would have described mine with H as a natural ebb and flow. This last year/6month being more of a slow drifting. But the affair was not a gentle, natural change. It was a sudden, violent stab in my stomach-twice. The last one killed off who I used to be. So I will be stronger and my M will be different. No more absolute, blind, crazy trust. I went from okay with strip clubs, girl lunches, and girl road trips to questioning him when he walks down to the garage with his cell phone. I went from knowing that I would be married forever to knowing there a chance I won't be. The trust bond broke that as well. If it happens again, I will make myself strong enough to leave, just like right now I am making myself strong enough to stay.


“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." Hemingway
Me- BS 36
Him- WS 41
1 child- 10 years old
together 18 years, legally married 15
Dday1- 7/7/13
Dday2- 8/12/13
The rollercoaster of R

Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2013
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If it happens again, I will make myself strong enough to leave, just like right now I am making myself strong enough to stay.

That is beautifully put lucy17.


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Posts: 14937 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^Wow


BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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