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Hello all - I could use a bit of support here. A few fun facts: Had DDay in May, told my mom and one brother 1(nice), mom told other brother (ass), BIG health issues with Mom in July, I notice that it is not just WH that has been walking all over me but everyone so I start standing my ground/speaking my mind, had HUGE blowup with one sister-in-law (brother 1's wife), hit a pretty desperate suicidal streak and refused to speak with Brother 1, Brother 1 got scared and told my sister about the A. (UGH)

Anyway - WH and I are heading to this wedding this weekend. I am worried about the wedding triggering me. (vows - what a freaking joke!) But WH and I are in a pretty good place and we can have a LOT of fun being social. I had a nightmare about yelling at my sis-in-law.

I guess I am just scared because I don't know what to expect...

First if anyone tries to start crap just tell them this day is not about them or you. It is about _____ and _____ insert bride and grooms name. And walk away.
If anyone starts mouthing you for staying married refer to above statement.
I also had a hard time with weddings and vows. I just learned to ignore the vows and I would start thinking about my checkbook and the bills just to get my teary eyes away from the bride an groom.